Changing the outside with surgery is great, but what about what is going on inside?
Many private facilities, be it clinics, schools etc, get accused of only caring about making money, and not caring about their clients emotional health and well-being. Especially in the field of plastic surgery, it is really hard to differentiate between genuine caring doctors and those who simply wish to make a quick buck.
At ID Hospital, we are not just about having surgery and becoming beautiful. We know that having surgery is an emotional journey as much as it is a physical journey. Altering your physical state also alters your mental and emotional state. It is rarely discussed, but taking care of emotional health is something that everyone must work on as a part of having plastic surgery. Taking care of yourself and wanting to attain beauty is good, and post-surgery care is important, but what about post-surgery emotional care?
Why do you want to have surgery?
Getting surgery alone does not fix self-esteem issues. Rather it is like a symbiotic process, the mind and body should both meet and exist together in harmony. If you have a negative outlook of yourself, sometimes surgery alone, may make you look beautiful, but you may still feel down and unhappy on yourself, continuing your pattern of thinking negatively. A healthy self-image is important and self-perception is key to whether you will find happiness with surgery or not.
Like raising a pet, caring for it, feeding it and treating it with kindness, you have to do the same for yourself. Having surgery is half the step, and now you have to do the emotional work and build-up your emotional health. Wanting to become beautiful should come from a place of strength, so you can go from strength to strength.
“I was beautiful already, and with this enhancement, I will be more beautiful.”
Feelings of self-doubt may arise so these kinds of statements foster an inner acceptance of your former self and help you.
After surgery, if more people are interested in being friends with you, or dating you when you didn’t get that type of attention before, you may start to think negatively over-time. Rather than thinking that it’s the surgeries that made people approach you, you should think, it’s the surgeries that gave me this confidence that people are attracted to.
Before surgery, you may have been pre-occupied by thoughts of your inadequate looks, and because we are humans, our behaviors will not change if we do not work to consciously change them. Divert the energy you spent criticizing yourself, on complimenting yourself, on bettering yourself, learning a new skill etc. Do not go back to dwelling on your appearance.
People with positive mindsets not only heal faster, but get the best surgery results because their minds are trained to expect the best. It is my personal experience, since I meet many patients, those who are happy and optimistic, heal faster and better, and spring back on their feet faster. Having a strong, positive self-image is vital for your emotional health.
“Be patient during the surgery healing process”
In comparison, when a person has negative thoughts, feelings and is used to negative behavior, they do not realize how much this actually affects their life. They don’t heal as fast, always complain, and do not allow their body to heal, always doubtful of themselves and others. These are also the type of people who will be negatively impacted with other people’s opinions and heavily rely emotionally on others for their happiness.
Before having surgery, it is crucial to have that talk with yourself, and really get down to the bottom of why you are having surgery. Once you have come to terms with that, then you can spend your time after surgery, caring for and nurturing yourself on your journey of life.
(The above expressed opinions are the author’s own based on patient observation and in no way representative of ID Hospital staffs’ opinions)
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